My Post Baby Bathing Suit Body

I wore a bathing suit for the first time in a long time today. We are on a family trip and I didn’t even bother to pack my bikini because I am so use to being on the sideline with my four month old. After the guys spent two hours in the pool yesterday I realized I wouldn’t get to spend much time with them if I wasn’t willing to get a little wet. So today I went to an overpriced tourist swim shop and purchased a bathing suit. I was pressed for time and they didn’t have a lot in my size so this is what I got. It’s not the most flattering but it covers my ass and that is what I needed.

When I put it on, my kids were so happy. My four year old told me that I looked fancy. Which made me feel special. We went to the beach and I actually got in the water!

I am writing this as a recommitment to myself to do what I want to do and wear what I feel comfortable in. It seems like an obvious thing to do but even I allow my body to limit my activities. So I am happy to say that I’m off the sideline and in the game wearing my not so flattering bathing suit, but my team doesn’t care so I am ok with it.


Women crush everyday of the week! To honor and share stories of women who are crushing it either on the body front or the mama front, I am featuring short interviews of women who are crushing it, hence the title #WomenCrushWednesday. So without further ado, let me introduce you to Deauna!


How has your view of your body evolved over the years?

I didn’t have the bounce-back body most women had. After my son, I had a road map of stretch marks. When I had my daughter four years later, the road map was now drawn on what looked like a tricycle tire that no amount of cocoa butter or crunches would make go away. What also bothered me was in my mind I was smaller, but my clothes told a different story. I’d obsess about beating muffin top and belly fat into submission.
As I approached 40 I realized I needed to change how I looked at myself and life. I earned a couple of pounds and deserved peace of mind.

How do you think women should feel about their bodies?

Embrace her body at whatever size it is right now. Buy clothes that accentuate features she loves. Walk by mirrors and feel herself sometimes. Say yes to that piece of cheesecake. The Universe didn’t put cheesecake here to be ignored. Life is too short to worry about not having Michelle Obama’s arms or Serena Williams’ whole lower half.

Why do you do what you do?

This is a two-fold answer. I have a 16-year-old daughter who already has some body image issues and I want her to love and accept herself the ways she is. I don’t want her waking up at 36 and thinking she needs to be anyone other than who she wants to be.
I’m going through a life change and it’s just good for my peace of mind. Writing on my blog helps me navigate this growth and find out how I want to experience life after 40. I realize that my body is actually pretty spectacular and I’m more focused on health than how I look. It also reminds me that I’m human and the only moment I have is right now. Right now, the tricycle tire and stretch marks remind me I grew and birth two humans I love and watched grow into interesting people.
Check out Deauna’s blog, Honesty’s Protegee!

#WomenCrushWednesday ~ The Wonderful Etang!


Women crush everyday of the week! To honor and share stories of women who are crushing it either on the body front or the mama front I will be featuring short interviews of women who are crushing it here in my #WomenCrushWednesday posts. So without further ado let me introduce you to bellydancer and body positive activist Etang!

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How has your view of your body evolved over the years?

My feelings about my body has been a journey from my teenage years feeling disconnected and not present to my discovery of belly dance which has really forced me to be present-to love the body that I walk in the world in. (To) not be concerned with people’s perception of my body.


How do you think women should feel about their bodies?

I think women should have full freedom to make decisions about how they feel about their bodies and that it should come from themselves and even if it takes many many years it’s their decision. It’s hard for to filter out media images and expectations but I hope that for every woman that if it takes to the end of her life that she grows to a place of self acceptance and self love.

All the things we go through whether it’s stretch marks, bruises, blemishes, old age those are all things that we have earned and we don’t celebrate them enough, they are a part of our life.

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Why do you do what you do?
I didn’t discover belly dance until I was 29. That was the first time I ever walked into a dance class. I didn’t think dance was for me. So for the last 15 years I have been doing it it has really been a gift back to me and in teaching belly dance to women and girls it is my way of giving back to women and girls in Oakland. There is something about belly dance that forces you to listen to and connect to your body. The movements are subtle, the music has captured me and there is a certain power that makes me feel like I have a secret.

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Etang is half of the belly dance troupe Raks Afrika and co-founder of Girls Raks Belly Dance and Body Image Program for girls in Oakland, Ca.