My grandmother always said, “a woman must have presence and dignity.” The last time she said this to me was in 2005 when I was visiting her in Zimbabwe before her passing in 2006. She kept making me sadza (a Zimbabwean staple) scones, vegetables, and meat. I was a size zero and in America it was considered a good thing. I had completely adopted my new culture and erased the ideas of my native culture that encouraged women to look voluptuous.
My grandmother told me that I should not look like a child but a woman. Little did I know that my presence was going to come forth through the birth of my first born son in 2006. Not until gaining 50 pounds from pregnancy did I truly understand what it felt like to love my body. I got curvier and my bra size got bigger. I lost the baby weight quickly but I was never to look like a child again.
My self confidence got truly tested when I recently gave birth to my second child six months ago. I can no longer fit my size four clothes, my stretch marks have doubled, but I am curvy, confident, and feel very dignified. I am a woman! I look at my body in the the mirror and feel like my body is amazing.Two beautiful boys came out of me.